

The first autumn candle has arrived. It’s huge (huge cat for scale; colour coordination not intentional).
“The plain fact is that the planet does not need more successful people. but it does desperately need more peacemakers, healers, restorers, storytellers and lovers of every kind. it needs people who live well in their places. it needs people of moral courage willing to join the fight to make the world habitable and humane. and these qualities have little to do with success as our culture has defined it.”
— David Orr
“What happens is that you tend to gather around you very different types of people. It’s impossible to please everyone all the time, and even more so when you have to meet such varied expectations. The opinions that one person agrees with are not the same ones the other person wants to hear; the problem is that they’re both sitting at your table. Next time you wonder why is it that you seem to attract so much hate, remember this.”
“You don’t have to get a job that makes others feel comfortable about what they perceive as your success. You don’t have to explain what you plan to do with your life. You don’t have to justify your education by demonstrating its financial rewards. You don’t have to maintain an impeccable credit score. Anyone who expects you to do any of those things has no sense of history or economics or science or the arts.You have to pay your electric bill. You have to be kind. You have to give it all you got. You have to find people who love you truly and love them back with the same truth. But that’s all.“
– Cheryl Strayed, Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar
Meu vizinho nos presenteou com dois pequenos tomateiros em troca de algo que fizemos por ele (não faço ideia do quê). Não tive coragem de dizer que não tenho absolutamente nenhuma ideia de como cuidar dessas coisas. Sou uma jardineira preguiçosa na melhor das hipóteses e não estou interessada em cultivar alimentos, mas well, vou tentar.
Porém olha minha roseira lilás. Perfeita.
A pasta carbonara dele ainda é a minha favorita, o deck deixou o jardim novamente utilizável, tive uma experiência medonha com a nova bebida de verão do Starbucks (devia ter ficado com o meu bom e velho frappuccino de strawberries and cream), mas esse pôr do sol salvou o dia.
E foi um bom dia indeed. O gato concorda.
“I actually attack the concept of happiness. The idea that – I don’t mind people being happy – but the idea that everything we do is part of the pursuit of happiness seems to me a really dangerous idea and has led to a contemporary disease in Western society, which is fear of sadness. It’s a really odd thing that we’re now seeing people saying “write down 3 things that made you happy today before you go to sleep”, and “cheer up” and “happiness is our birthright” and so on. We’re kind of teaching our kids that happiness is the default position – it’s rubbish. Wholeness is what we ought to be striving for and part of that is sadness, disappointment, frustration, failure; all of those things which make us who we are. Happiness and victory and fulfillment are nice little things that also happen to us, but they don’t teach us much. Everyone says we grow through pain and then as soon as they experience pain they say “Quick! Move on! Cheer up!” I’d like just for a year to have a moratorium on the word “happiness” and to replace it with the word “wholeness”. Ask yourself “is this contributing to my wholeness?” and if you’re having a bad day, it is.”
— Hugh Mackay